Have you ever been invited to an elaborate dinner party? Maybe it was a holiday like Christmas or a special celebratory occasion and you were so looking forward to connecting with loved ones around the table.
The day arrives. You ring the doorbell and smell a delicious dinner being prepared. As you walk into the living room, you enjoy hors d'oeuvres and conversation with old friends.
So festive. So warm. So inviting.
Then comes the announcement that dinner is served. The table is beautifully set, just like a pin on a Pinterest board...
As you wait to be seated, you realize there's not enough chairs. And to your surprise, the host awkwardly says to you, "Oh, come this way, I have a special seat for you."
...and leads you into the kitchen... to sit at the KIDS' TABLE!
Because apparently the big table was reserved for the couples aka the grown ups. Talk about feeling inferior!
Everything was cool until you were sequestered to the kid table where the feelings of inferiority
Sometimes life feels this way for Christian singles. It shouldn't be. It's certainly not Biblical but because some church cultures consider marriage to equate being "all grown up," we feel inferior.
I'd by lying if I said I never feel assigned to the kid table. Aside from being in the marital-status-minority, I'm that 35-year-old living at home with Mom and Dad. I moved back to New York several years ago to complete my degree and figured I'd quickly move on (and away from New York) after that. Well, God had other plans which involved my staying here however I'm nowhere near being in a place financially where I can afford live on my own. While I'm grateful for such gracious parents, I must say I sometimes struggle with feeling there are days less than a grown up.
Why is it that as believers in Christ Jesus, we allow ourselves to feel less than? Why should people be defined as inferior simply because they're unmarried? Our identity is not in who we're married to, our identity is in Christ alone. But we don't always act like it.
Friends, it's time for us to walk in the confidence and victory that Christ won for us. We belong to HIM! Despite the awkward place settings we sometimes get in life, don't believe the lies that singleness disqualifies you because you have been qualified by GOD to share in the inheritance belonging to His people!
So, when you're frustrated about your earthly seating arrangement, turn your eyes to the One who is seated in heaven on the Throne. Though He's high above, you'll never feel insignificant because it is in Christ where your significance lies.
But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the ages to come He might show the surpassing riches of His grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.
- Ephesians 2:4-7
Yes, I am single. And yes, sometimes I wish that could change.
But that is not what defines me...
I am redeemed, chosen, and blessed! And so are you!
pressing on toward the goal,
What does your place card say?