Thursday, October 18, 2012

What's the Point?

Today's guest post comes from my friend, Maggie Rivera, who I met at The Lighthouse Church. She is a precious woman of God who is an encouragement to many people. Maggie's life is a beautiful display of the love and grace of Christ and I am grateful to know her and call her friend. I am sure that you will be encouraged by her words today. She's a great writer (and a future blogger so stay tuned for more of her work!)...

Family … what's the point?  When I reflect on my own family background, I'm dumbstruck.  At 3 months old I was given up for adoption by my mother who was physically abused by her husband and was overwhelmed with 9 children ranging from ages 15 and under. I was adopted by a couple who were first cousins, my adopted dad being about 20 years younger than my adopted mother (who, by the way, practiced witchcraft and was an alcoholic). I had witnessed so many crazy things at the young age of 5 that I was extremely happy when she passed away.  My adopted dad remarried when I was 6, but left that woman when I was 10 after having two biological daughters with her.  After he abandoned us, and divorced my stepmom he remarried to another woman with six children.  Oh, did I forget to mention that my stepmom physically, mentally and emotionally abused me from the ages of 7 to 13 when I left to live with my adopted dad and his new wife with six children?  Yes, this after meeting my biological family who were all hooked on some form of drug or substance abuse. 

So yeah, what's the point of family again? 

God is most certainly humorous having asked me to write a blog on friends and family.  I struggled and prayed for over a week… 
Lord, what in the world can I say about family?

To find my answer I turned to the scriptures.  
As I read I see nothing but dysfunction from the beginning of creation.  Genesis introduces us to jealousy and anger, which arose in Cain when he killed his brother; Noah's daughters took advantage of him while he was drunk and slept with him; Isaac and Rebecca had twins and favored one over the other.  Jacob stole Esau’s birthright and blessings; and Joseph’s brothers got jealous and sold him into slavery.  

Unfortunately, from the beginning of time, Satan deceived the first couple and sin crept in.  Hence, sin has wreaked havoc bringing division and animosity into almost every existing family.  Our families today are not very different from our biblical ancestors.  We can find some form of dysfunction in almost every family we know.  Whether it’s aggressive or passive aggressive, either way the dysfunction has lasting harmful effects on generation after generation.

As I ponder, I still ask, Lord, what’s the point?

Let’s remember that from the beginning God’s intent in creating mankind is family.  He created mankind in His image, blessed them and instructed the first couple to “Be fruitful and increase in number.” (Genesis 1:28)  As many times as I have read that passage I never picked up on those two amazing words, God blessed them.  We use the words God bless you so much that we take the depth of the blessing of God for granted.  With those two little words God’s intent in creating mankind is clear; He wants families blessed. 

I believe God’s intent for family is also intimacy, soul deep heartfelt intimacy.  God creates Adam and all the animals, instructs Adam to name all the animals, turns around and says, it is not good for man to be alone.  Why?  Didn't Adam have all those animals to keep him company?  Well yes, but God created mankind in His image not the animals.  God’s heart saw the need for intimacy because that’s what He already had with His son.  God not only wants us to have deep intimacy with Him, but through the sacrifice of His one and only Son He makes a way for infinite intimacy!

Paul says it best in Ephesians 1:4-6… For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.

I have walked with Christ for 22 years now.  He has restored my family life through my wonderful husband of 19 years and three beautiful children.  He has also blessed me with an extended family in Christ.  People who are so dear and have loved me so well I don't see them as just friends, but as a family, an extension of God's great love for me. 

The point? God has been intentional in His creation of family from the beginning of time to forevermore in order to fulfill His deep desire for infinite intimacy with you and me.

Maggie Rivera is a wife to Francisco for almost twenty years, mother to Christian (19), Jeremy (14 and Rebecca (11), and princess daughter of the King of Kings. She is a paralegal and also a leader at The Lighthouse Church. Maggie loves to laugh and learn and enjoys studying the Word of God. 


Maxsy said...

LOVE IT!!!!!!

Josh Ramos said...

Beautifully written. God knew the importance of family and He even goes as far as placing "the lonely in families" (Psalm 68:6a). Thanks for sharing your life with us.--Lisi

Anonymous said...

Wow I didn't know Maggie was a writer, what she wrote was awesome:)-Kim